Welcome to another Tuesday Talks blog. I’m so glad you are reading this. My hope is that you find peace in my words that brings light to your soul. I’m going to speak about grief, but it is a different this time. If you have never experienced the death of someone, count yourself lucky. This is something we all will go through at some point in our lives. In saying that, there are other types of grief. The loss of a friendship or marriage, a job or your once healthy body. We grieve “what could have been.”

At birth, there is no instruction booklet, just like at death, there is none as well. There are literally millions of books and articles written on both of these subjects. All offering helpful tools and mantras, but they are not tailored to your exact experience nor situation. As you read, please remember that I am not a trained therapist or doctor. However, in the 10 years of being an Evidential Medium I have been in front of all different types of grief and will explain what my particular experiences have been. Some who just lost someone, their passings was a few years ago or many years ago. No matter what stage of mourning you are in, you are looking for reassurance. You want validation that your loved one is ok and you are longing to hear from them.

But there is another type of client I come across from time to time. They are the ones discovered something about the one who passed that is unsettling. They, too, are looking for answers. You may be the one who left had no idea the person was struggling with an addition or depression. They wonder why they did not notice what was the cause of this action.

In these particular cases, the 7 stages of grief can roll in several times a week or even all in one day. There is shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and hope. Processing grief is complicated. It is different for everyone.